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e, and too important to be violated or neglected. ey should be engraven early upon the memories children, and enforced, when need requires it, h steady, but mild firmness. And by and by y will grow into habits; and submission and obeence will become natural" and easy.

"When children are managed in this manner m infancy, by parents, whose example comports th their injunctions, and whose exercise of authorcarries along with it evident marks of tender ection, they feel the yoke to be easy, and are thheld from acts of disobedience, more by filial ve, than the dread of chastisement. Hence it is, at, in some houses, family government goes on th singular regularity, though so silent as to be arcely perceived. There is no violent scolding; oboisterous threats; no fierce looks. Both the ther and the mother are so mild and even in temer and good behaviour, that they seem scarcely to splay any authority at all; and yet their children e orderly, submissive, and dutiful, in a very uncomon degree. A single word, or a mere glance of the ye, from either the one or the other, they mind more an the children of some families do pelting and

ard blows."

"Thus mildly treated, children are led to delight the company and conversation of their parents, nd to receive counsel readily from their lips: and hen they come of age to act for themselves, they o not feel like emancipated slaves; but are still ooking back, with mixed emotions of respect and ove, to the salutary discipline they had been under, ill accustoming themselves to consult their arents and to receive their advice with defernce;"* being thus prepared to maintain similar iscipline in their own families.

AUTHORITY AND OBEDIE

It is essential for children to know and to bear a denial. But if we are regular in requiring obedience, we sh tain it. This requires steadiness and se and without these, there is very little education of a child will be conducted principles. Authority to effect the des must be unshaken, administered with free from fretfulness or ill temper; an gular and consistent, never unnecessaril action, but always with effect. Au guarded will seldom fail to procure a ence, free from the thraldom of that sla got by sternness and severity.

A vigilant superintendence of childre ry, but not a frequent interference, i avoided. To preserve them from ev. childishness, should be our object.

Children are children, and it is our pathise with them, as such; to impose u unnecessary restraints; to grant eve gratification, and, as far as possible, their enjoyment. This is by no means i with salutary discipline; which, if it right obedience, must be begun and ma sympathy and kindness.

What is vulgarly called scolding, has establishing authority; but tends greatl it. A multiplicity of words by way of threats, accomplishes very little in obta ence or obedience.

der it efficacious, or rather, to prevent its becoming a dangerous evil, it should be administered with perfect serenity of temper, and affection towards the offender.

Every kind of punishment that may terrify the imagination, ought to be strictly guarded against. The dark closet is one of that kind. Severe reproaches, rough handling, and the hasty slap, if they do not mach terrify, lessen right authority and injure the temper of a child.

Children should not be punished for mere accidents; but mildly warned against similar carelessness in future. And yet some people show much greater displeasure with a child for accidentally breaking a piece of china, or tearing its clothes, than for telling an untruth. Here the lesser is prefered to the greater, and the primary object of education is lost sight of.

When a child has been punished in any way, he should be restored to favour as soon as possible: And when he has received forgiveness, treated as if nothing had happened. He may be affectionately reminded of his fault in private, as a warning for the future; but to upbraid him with it, especially in the presence of others, is a breach of honour, and a great unkindness. Under any circumstance, to reproach children in company, is useless, and often injurious, as well as painful to them; and is generally done from irritability of temper, with little view to their profit. To have the name of a naughty child, may produce so disheartening an effect on the mind, that the ill consequences may be felt to its great disadvantage.

HARMONY IN FAMILIES. Impartiality tends greatly to promote harmony Hence the necessity of parents not

in families.

manifesting any partiality to one or mo children. In the favoured child, it lays th tion for pride and self-importance, and in lected one, it raises indignation if not hatre ever may be the motives assigned for parti rents must answer to the Judge of all the the sorrows and evils it produces.

Harmony in a family will be greatly in should the father and mother pursue diff tems in the management of their childr therefore highly necessary that they adopt plan; otherwise one or the other of them, haps both, will lose the esteem of their obedience to either is not to be expecte probability is, that bad habits, and incorre ples will be established.

In order to promote love and harmon children, one should not be allowed to over or tease another. Nor ought one to at the expense of another. No envious co must be drawn. Children should not be to scoff at one who happens to be an offend practice destroys affection, and gives rise ment and retaliation. They should be feel for one another when in disgrace, an prohibited from interceding.

Great care is necessary not to injure th of children; which is easily done. The go of our own temper is essential. For, if we s child in a fretful manner. we shall generally

, or he will listen with perfect indifference. n early childhood, much may be done by a sysof prevention. A judicious parent may avert y an impending naughty fit by change of object, tle amusement, and care to put no temptation in way, if any of the little ones appear to be uncomcable or irritable.

Children should not be unnecessarily thwarted en in pursuit of an object. A child, for example, ore he can speak, is trotting after a ball; the nurse _tches him up at the moment, to be washed, and

poor child throws himself into a violent passion; ereas, had she kindly assisted him in gaining his ect and then taken him up, this trial would have en spared, and his temper been uninjured.-Teas and derision tend very much to imbitter the st temper.

GENEROSITY AND BENEVOLENCE. To promote these virtues, selfishness, the prevailing l of the human heart, must be carefully watched, d perseveringly counteracted in our children, d in our own conduct on all occasions.

Generosity and benevolence, are not of a nature be enforced by authority. But we may do much promote their growth by our example, our influce, our instruction, and by the judicious improveent of those natural feelings of kindness, which alost all children occasionally display. There are ery few, if any, who do not discover emotions of symathy and pity, at the sight of sorrow and suffering Lese are among the favourable opportunities for wakening their benevolence and compassion; not nly toward their fellow-creatures, but to every living ing. And we should be particularly careful to se no such opportunity of cultivating this tender ess of feeling among themselves.